Coping Consciously with Confidence

Chronic Fatigue Syndrome symptoms ebb and flow like the tide except with far less predictability or consistency. How do you cope with a constant changing symptom list that varies in severity by the hour, day, week, month or year? Today, I am concentrating on my reliable coping mechanisms. These coping techniques to handle the invisible disease that CFS is, also help me handle the stresses I face in my life, working and living a life in 2015, never mind with CFS.

Hobbies, Interests and More

My techniques vary in only way, whether it’s a physical activity or if it is about observing or listening. Everyone’s list will be different, plus the way the individual technique is utilized could alter. Music is one of my coping mechanisms; this is all about listening to music with a little side brain activity of learning about the artist or the songwriting. Another person may play guitar, write music or sing (none of which has not happened in my world so far!). These are the most common ways I’ve found to cope with CFS and life in general:

• Music (listening to music, learning about the artists, how songs were written, etc.).
• Movies (re-watching favorite movies ranging from romantic comedies, classic movies (Hitchcock especially), to a random horror – ultimate favorites are an inspirational true story like Moneyball [official trailer], Rudy [official trailer] or a great mystery story like Along Came a Spider [official trailer]).
• Reading (when I cannot read either due to my eyes bothering me, falling asleep too fast or too busy doing other things, I listen to audio books).
• Crafts: knitting, crocheting, counted cross-stitch with a little of adult coloring books, drawing, card-making.
• Visiting with friends/family: regular FaceTime chats with my Mom plus on-going conversations with those closest to me,

Stampin’ Up cards

Crocheted Blanket

Coping with Confidence

These techniques are simple, easy and inexpensive. When I was very sick, I listened to music and learned inspiring stories of singers who overcame the odds to follow their dreams and reach success. This helped me immensely to know others struggles, while different, they persisted until they met their goals. Today, I still use music to de-stress. I almost always have music on in the car, cranking the volume for those fun, dance-able songs, singing along (out of tune and not caring!) to get my groove on and forget for three minutes about anything else but this moment.

Simple techniques that can be used whether you’re in bed 18 hours a day, working part-time or even cooking supper for your family and running out of time and energy can make all the difference in the world. This can alter whether you cry yourself to sleep, yell at your spouse or give your kids a hug good night and laugh at their silly jokes.

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What makes coping with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome the most difficult for you?

How do you handle the various symptoms and the different degrees the symptoms appear/fade? 

If you are a friend or family member of a person living with CFS, how do you cope?

 

Reflections Then and Now: A Typical Day (what is that?!)

Today I got up at 4:15 am (on purpose) because I have a busy at work and need to catch up on things, or at least have 2-3 hours before the meetings begin. As I drove the 45 minute commute, I thought how much my world has changed since 1988 when my symptoms first began. Back then, I was in high school, working part-time in the family janitorial business and doing hours of volunteer work. When I got sick, I began sleeping in – as you saw by my first sentence – not a common thing in my world. I could not stay awake. I came home, if I made it to school, exhausted. I fell asleep, Mom woke me up for supper, and then after eating, I was back asleep until the next morning. This went on with numerous doctor appointments, school discussions, etc. trying to figure out what was going on with my exhaustion.

Fortunately, around a year after my symptoms began, I was diagnosed with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. in this post, I will not go through the roller coaster of exhaustion, insomnia and years of herbal remedies, diets and various methods we used to give me some energy and relief of symptoms.Eventually, I was able to stay awake and live off between 4 – 7 hours a sleep most nights. Currently, this is still the average amount of sleep I get nightly. On this schedule, I’ve been working full-time since 2001, and most of the time have some sort of extra-curricular volunteer, part-time job and/or social life.

Today, I work 5 days a week, 7 – 8 hours per day, more hours when needed, write in my spare time, include time for many other hobbies and interests. I have a busy career, active life and work out a few times a week at my own pace. There are many more things I plan to do in my life: I intend to write full-time and leave this working for someone else (as satisfying as it is; truly it is!) so I can travel and pursue my other interests.

It’s been about 27 years since I began sleeping 18-22 hours a day. I am extremely grateful I can manage my symptoms enough to lead a full life and I will continue to listen to my body; feed it what it needs spiritually, emotionally and physically. I take one day at a time and treat my symptoms as it comes. Rest when I need to rest or as soon as I can get home. I appreciate the energy I have, the family and friends and support and I look forward to my future adventures!

 

2015 New Beginnings, Adventures and Excitement

Since my last post, many things changed. In no particular order: I am no longer in school, have a relatively new job at a new company, got married, live in the suburbs, released over 90 pounds and have two trouble-maker, spoiled cats.

What happened with school?

To be honest, I did not anticipate the amount of work doing a degree online entails. I thought a couple hours a night, supplemented with a few hours, even maybe eight hours weekends, that I would be able to handle the day job and homework. However, it took its toll! By the time I reached the last semester in my first year, I had to go on sick leave for a few months to recover enough to just get to the office. It seems silly now how I underestimated the work involved with school knowing my perfectionism and my passion for school; it is what it is. Despite the setback with my health for a few months, I have no regrets and given the same circumstances I would have made the same choice to go back to school. I’m halfway to my Bachelor’s Degree and hope sometime in the future, I will be able to finish the program. I am not there right now.

I went back to work gradually, part-time and built up to my full-time hours. It took a lot of aggressive rest therapy and also I started my journey to a healthier body weight. I was fortunate that I could  take the sick time I needed and still go back to my same job (Service Desk Analyst). It was a tough road and today I am in a much better physical and mental state.

New Beginnings

In May 2013, I met Gil through the matchmaking agency, It’s Just Lunch. The short story behind our romance is we were engaged in July 2013, I moved into his house in August 2013 and we were married February 14, 2014. Yes, our first wedding anniversary is around the corner!

In June 2014, I moved out of the oil and gas industry and into a financial institution world. I continue working with Information Technology, now as a Manager of ITSD (Information Technology Service Delivery) which equals managing the IT Administrative Support team. This career advancement allows me to explore a variety of new challenges including communication enhancement, process improvement and overall people management. It is exciting and I love working with this team at this company.

I am looking forward to an interesting year!